The most important factor in a divorce is how it will affect the children. It is crucial for parents to recognize the impact their actions can have on their children’s well-being during this time. Years of experience have taught me specific strategies parents can employ to protect their children from the emotional harm divorce often brings. Here are five parenting tips for children going through a divorce:
- Protect Children from Negativity: Never disparage your co-parent or allow others to do so in front of your children or in places where they may overhear. Children know they are “part mom” and “part dad,” so hearing criticism of either parent can deeply affect them by causing them to internalize such remarks.
- Don’t Use Children as Messengers: Children should never be put in the middle of parental disputes or used as messengers between parents. Contact your co-parent directly through electronic platforms or other appropriate channels, such as professionals, rather than involving the children. The less the children are involved in parental conflict, the better.
- Communicate Openly and Reassure Children: Honest and age-appropriate communication is key to helping children cope with the changes brought about by divorce. Be honest with your children but frame the discussion in a way that emphasizes stability and reaffirms the continuity of the family.
- Address Children’s Concerns: Children may have various questions and concerns about the divorce, and the uncertainty of it all lends itself to fear. Take the time to listen to your children’s concerns and validate their feelings. Provide age-appropriate explanations and be patient in answering their questions.
- Promote Healthy Relationships: It is essential to promote healthy relationships within the family. Encourage positive interactions between your children and their other parent, as well as other significant family members. Foster an environment where children feel safe and supported in maintaining connections with both sides of their family.
The attorneys at Beermann LLP, like myself, are prepared to work with you to create a tailored plan to help lessen the impact your divorce could have on your children.
Cory E. Oshita, Partner
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